Monday, February 20, 2017
Not Doing It All
Two days ago I sat in our monthly Writers of Kern meeting, I'd snuck in just before it started and after a quick phone call from the babysitter, was back out before the meeting was over. Before I left, one of our members asked how I managed three young children and a writing career (career is a loose term, yes?). She wanted to know how I did it all.
Here's my answer (drumroll)...
I don't. I'm not even close to doing it all.
My husband is a trauma rep (meaning he's on call 24/7) and I have three kids with piano, violin, cello and competitive gymnastics. This doesn't include our GATE programs or volunteer projects. And let's not forget school activities.
None of the above include my own obligations to the local school district, my editing clients, our semiannual Girls Only Ragnar trip and my position as Critique Group Coordinator for Writers of Kern.
I had two Writers of Kern obligations in one week but with my daughter busting her leg and a babysitter needing to bail, I missed one completely and left halfway into another. And let's not forget rebuilding a fence that fell over in our recent storm.
Plain and simple, I physically and quite literally can not do it all.
But I sure as hell can try.
When you're drowning in to-do lists and skipping from one event to another, writing feels like an impossible task. Editing isn't even a thought. You want to beat your fists against the keyboard you just sat down to tackle, only to realize your parents are at your door. Or your dog just vomited on your feet. Or the school called, you forgot to pick up your kid. Or your thirty-year-old is moving back in.
You could fold and walk away or you could give what you have. No one can do it all. We're not supposed to do it all. It absolutely takes a village.
Thankfully, I have a safety net with a supportive husband, understanding (for the most part) kids and the best board of all time at Writers of Kern.
There are going to be days where you punch out only a sentence. And then there will be days you get a paragraph. But one word is better than no word.
You can't do it all. But you sure as hell can try.